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I was always a skinny kid – the skinny kid who was always too small or too scrawny to be any good at anything. I used to listen to what people would say, but instead of discouraging me, their words motivated me – because I knew I had something that most other people didn’t have: I would always go the extra mile. I would make the biggest effort, and I would be the most determined.
They were the three things I had going for me: effort, belief, and determination.
Why is making an effort so difficult for some people to achieve?
Probably because the thought of having to make more of an effort casts doubt on their ability, and most importantly, if they make an effort, they are left without any excuses for failure.
Without making an effort, you can always say “I could have been anything.” However, once you try and have made an effort, you cannot say that anymore and your excuses are taken from you.
I knew I had to overcome people’s opinions and judgments or I would never achieve anything. If I had believed the naysayers and cynics who said I couldn’t do something, I wouldn’t have accomplished much.
The same principles apply in a team environment. But instead of worrying about other people’s opinions, we play the comparison game instead.
– Zig Ziglar –
While in the army, I made a conscious decision to not worry about what other people thought of me or the team I was leading. That was one of the greatest decisions of my life, and looking back in hindsight, I am grateful that I had the guts to follow it through.
At the end of the day, you don’t need to justify your decisions or beliefs to anyone.
The opinions and judgments of other people just don’t matter. Trust your own intuition and gut instinct and that of your team mates.
What’s the worst that could happen? You could fall on your backside!
If that happens, dust yourself off and try again. Just try to learn from it and avoid making the same mistake twice.
Most people waste so much time being fearful of what others think and trying to compete with their peers! Who cares what they have, what they think?
Your life is a one-horse race, and you are competing against no one else but yourself.
When we focus on the negatives and what others think of us, it is impossible to get positive results.Comparing your standards to others’ wastes valuable time and energy. At the end of the day, other people’s opinions of us are like dreams – random and powerless, unless we believe them and give them energy.